When the Worry Doesn’t Turn Off: Understanding Postpartum Anxiety

Mother holding a sleeping baby on her shoulder.

If you’ve ever stood over your sleeping baby, hand hovering near their chest to make sure they’re breathing — you’re not alone.

Postpartum anxiety often hides behind phrases like “I’m just being careful” or “I can’t relax until I know they’re safe.”

It’s normal to worry as a new parent — but when that worry feels constant, when your mind can’t rest, or when your body feels like it’s in permanent alert mode, it may be more than “new mom nerves.”

Postpartum anxiety can look like:

  • Racing thoughts or feeling “on edge” all the time

  • Trouble sleeping even when baby sleeps

  • Feeling tense or shaky

  • Overchecking, over-Googling, over-preparing

  • Fear of being alone with your baby

Your mind is trying to protect you, but it’s exhausting.

If this sounds familiar, start here:

  • Ground your body. Place a hand on your chest, inhale for 4, exhale for 6.

  • Challenge the thought. Ask, “Is this worry helping or just looping?”

  • Seek support. Anxiety is treatable, and you deserve relief.

You are not “crazy” — you are a mother whose nervous system is doing its best to keep everyone safe. Therapy can help you teach it that you already are.

Samantha Schaefer, LCSW, PMH-C

Samantha Schaefer, LCSW, PMH-C, is a trauma-informed Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Perinatal Mental Health professional offering therapy services to teens, adults, and couples in-person in Pleasant Hill and online across California. Her approach is direct, solution-focused, and collaborative, helping clients navigate life transitions and heal from trauma. Fluent in English and Spanish, Samantha ensures accessible, compassionate care for diverse individuals. With a background in community-based mental health, she creates a safe, supportive space for growth and healing

https://www.schaefertherapy.com/
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